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Zeus

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Meine heutige Diskussion im "Bilder von euch"-Thread und die Frage danach, ob Mortimer sexuell devot oder dominant sei, erinnerte mich daran, dass ich einst Sexualwissenschaften studieren wollte, um eventuell Sexualtherapeut zu werden. Also googlete ich ein wenig und habe diesen Blog/Dr. Sommer-Typen gefunden, der aber zumindest nicht an Pubertierende gerichtet ist: Leute schicken ihre mit Sex zusammenhängenden Probleme/Fragen ein und dieser anscheinend etwas bekanntere Typ beantwortet sie. Hier die Online-Version, aber anscheinend wurde/wird das laut Wikipedia auch in einigen Zeitungen abgedruckt: https://savage.love/savagelove/1999/02/18/arid-extra-dry/

So Lebensgeschichten interessieren mich ja immer, vor allem, wenn die Themen auch wirklich ansprechend sind.

Nachtrag: Besonders interessant: Einige der Tipps wären heute auf keinen Fall so niedergeschrieben worden.
 
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Zeus

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Ein hervorragendes Beispiel schon einmal:

My girlfriend and I only see each other on weekends. To overcome the overwhelming
desire to jerk off during the week, I have discovered that I get great pleasure
urinating on myself. I don’t know how this happened–one morning I just did it.

About an hour after drinking a lot of water, I lay down in the bathtub.
When I can’t hold it anymore, I direct a clear stream of urine all over my body.
Then I pull my briefs back up and soak them. I keep my eyes closed–but do I
need to worry about any long-term effects on my hair or skin? Is there anything
wrong with me? My girlfriend knows nothing about this. I have no intention of
telling her, and I don’t want to be urinated on by anyone else.

Wet


We get a lot of letters here at Savage Labs. While every letter is unique, and everyone’s dumb-ass problem is compelling in its own very special way, patterns do emerge, and Wet’s letter is a good example of a certain type of letter we get. The kids in the mailroom like to call them HTH’s, or “How’d That Happen?!” letters. You see, Wet is doing this completely whack thing–peeing on himself in the bathtub as a substitute for masturbation–and like a lot of folks doing whack things, Wet has some whack concerns. He has questions about the advisability of this whack behavior–will urine damage my skin? is there something wrong with me?–so he writes a letter. Something that he thinks, no doubt, took some courage. But in composing his letter, Wet chickens out: he fails to take responsibility for his actions, casting himself as a passive player in this bathtub drama. He may be peeing on himself, but it wasn’t really his idea, he writes: “I don’t know how this happened–one morning I just did it.” How’d That Happen?!

Hm. I’ve been taking unsupervised baths for 27 years, and in all that time I never just “happened” to pee all over myself. The times I have pissed in the tub or shower, it was on purpose–I was too lazy to get out of the shower, if you know what I mean, or there was someone else in the shower with me and I was fulfilling a special request, if you know what I mean. But it never just “happened.” I did it. So, Wet, while I’m happy to answer your questions–no, it won’t hurt you; yes, there is probably something wrong with you, something terribly, terribly wrong–your unwillingness to take responsibility for your actions is what disturbs me most about your letter. Come on, admit it: You’re into piss–you like it for its own sake, not as a substitute for masturbation. Repeat after me: “I like piss. I’m into self-administered golden showers.” This is not something that just happened to you, like cancer or Candid Camera. It’s something you did. You’re a perv, Wet. Cop to it, fer Christ’s sake.
 

Zeus

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Ich lese gerade einen Artikel über die in den 80ern stattfindende Diskussion zum Sterilisationsgesetz von nicht-einwilligungsfähigen Volljährigen. Dramatisch, was da alles zu lesen ist. Zum Thema, warum man sterilisierte/kastrierte Opfer aus des Nationalsozialismus nicht entschädigen wollte:

Die Abwehr der Entschadigungsanspruche sttitzte sich v. a. auf folgende Argumente, die auch in der gegen-
wiirtigen Debatte immer wieder angefUhrt werden:
1) Eine pauschale Entschadigung von DM 5000 pro Sterilisiertem wtirde, bei
einer angenommenen Zahl von noch 200000 Oberlebenden (so der damalige
Bundesminister StrauB in der 136. Sitzung des Deutschen Bundestags vom
17.11.1967) mehr als 1 Mrd. DM kosten - eine unzumutbare Summe, insbesondere
unter dem Aspekt, daB der groBere Anteil der Summe an Geisteskranke, Schwach-
sinnige oder schwere Alkoholiker gezahlt werden mtisse.

2) Die Sterilisation habe das korperliche Wohlbefinden des Betroffenen in keiner
Weise beeintrachtigt.
Eine Entschadigungsmoglichkeit fOrdere nur das Entstehen
von Entschadigungsneurosen. Korperliche Spatfolgen seien so gut wie nie nach-
weisbar (so z. B. die Professoren Villinger und Ehrhardt, die als Sachverstandige
yom WiedergutmachungsausschuB gehort worden waren, vgl. Deutscher Bundes-
tag 1961, S. llff., 25ff.). Schon im amtlichen Merkblatt "Erbkranker Nachwuchs
ist Volkstod", mit dem fUr die Sterilisation in der NS-Zeit geworben wurde, hatte
es in bewuBter IrrefUhrung der Betroffenen geheiBen:
Irgendwe1che gesundheitlichen StOrungen sind von der Unfruchtbarrnachung weder beim Manne
noch bei der Frau zu beftirchten.

Ich habe gerade keine Lust, die Fehler beim Kopieren und Einfügen zu korrigieren, aber es sollte ohnehin auch so zu entziffern sein.

Wow, das muss hinzugefügt werden:

Seit Mitte der 70er Jahre ist der Ruf nach einem neuen Sterilisationsgesetz
wieder hoffahig geworden und mit Nachdruck yom Diakonischen Werk, der Pro
Familia und der Bundesvereinigung Lebenshilfe in Memoranden vorgetragen wor-
den, d. h. in z. T. institutioneller, personeller und inhaltlicher Kontinuitat mit den
das GzVeN promovierenden Kraften
Das GzVeN war das "Gesetz zur Verhütung erbkranken Nachwuchses" der Nazis.
 
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Zeus

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Eine ältere Studie über die Probleme von Therapeuten und ähnlichen Professionellen bei ihrem Umgang mit Inzestopfern:

The vast majority of the 130 professionals interviewed recognized their shortcomings in
therapeutic knowledge (75%) and skills (67%) with respect to their handling of incest victims.
This, more often than not, came down to the practical question of how to handle incest experi-
ences in a more therapeutic form. Typical questions pointing to the insecurities of the profes-
sionals were Which signals and symptoms point to abuse in the family of origin? How far
should I probe into the former experienced abuse? and Should I discuss their guilt feelings in
detail? These cognitive questions were put into better perspective when we related them to
the emotional problems our respondents felt in their contact with incest victims: 85% of the
professionals experienced some sort of emotional strain. Four categories of disturbing emo-
tions were distinguished:
1. Anger towards the perpetrator: 58% of the professionals felt that their anger towards the
perpetrator put them out of balance. There was great confusion about the question as to
how far they could show this anger to the victims.
2. Embarrassment and disgust: 42% of the respondents felt their professional performance
was impaired by their own aversion to the sexual events the victim had gone through. In
some way, these respondents considered the whole subject of incest loathsome and incom-
prehensible.
3. Strong identification with the victim: 41% of the professionals, in general females and spe-
cifically those women who had experienced some sort of abuse in their own youth, feared
overidentification with the victim. They wondered if they would still be able to maintain a
minimum of professional distance and objectivity.
4. General feelings of being powerless and overwhelmed: 23% of the respondents were moved
by what the victims told them, and they felt helpless in the face of the experiences the
victims had undergone. They also had difficulties in controlling these emotions
42% der befragten Psychologen u.ä. konnten Inzestopfern nicht angemessen helfen, weil sie in Scham oder Ekel gerieten. Uff!

Nachtrag:

One final point must be mentioned. Of the 50 victims interviewed, 5 reported spontane-
ously during the interview that they experienced either actual sexual abuse by a professional
or explicit attempts in that direction. Although we could not verify these allegations, four of
the five stories were detailed as to the persons involved and the time and place of the occur-
rences. Two women were told to undress and lay down naked on the couch by their psychia-
trist. One psychologist sexually fondled his patient, and one general practitioner talked his
patient into going to bed with him
 
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